Self Destruct!!!!! Arrrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhh.
Of course we all know about Self Sabotage, that feeling of shooting yourself in the foot, of being stuck in a ‘groundhog day”. Of that inevitable knowing that you are about to self destruct yet you are powerless to stop yourself.
Meet The Inner Rebel:
When your Inner Rebel is on-line, it can be reflected in your life in two ways.
~ Either you get everything you thought you wanted, and you don’t like it so you jack it all in.
~ Or you take a steady, culturally approved path and find yourself miserable.
- You never feel settled where you live.
- You get a job knowing you don’t really like it but don’t feel like you can or should do anything else.
- You self destruct a seemingly perfect relationship.
- You are always thinking ‘the grass is greener’.
- You are frustrated by the conventions of society but still have to live in it.
- You stick with jobs which mean you are safe to leave at any point in time.
- You never get the right guy (or girl).
- You are trying to be normal and it’s causing problems with your happiness.
Basically the Inner Rebel will keep you in a state of flight, whether you are actually running or not, it will feel like you want to.
~ You may crave settling down, finding your spot in the world but it never seems to happen.
~ You wonder if you have something written on your forehead and that is why you attract the wrong person in your life all the time!!
~ There is a restlessness to your spirit that just won’t go away.
~ It is as if there are only two options of what kind of life you want to live, and neither are making you happy.
Well that is all the work of your Inner Rebel, a part of you who wants to be free, but can’t communicate with you the best way to do that.
The Inner Rebel has an issue with conformity.
~ Whether that is getting a job as an accountant when you really want to be an actress.
~ Being a mother when you really want to be back at work (or the other way around).
~ Having a great job, but totally going crazy at the weekends, loosing yourself in sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll.
The Inner Rebel has been around for centuries.
For the most part has totally been kept subverted. It takes a brave soul to go against the norm, the expectations of parents, the overwhelming power of peer pressure. Not to do, to be, to say the ‘expected thing’. Those that did either made a powerful impact on history (Leonardo Da Vinci) or if they didn’t get it right, lived the life of a hermit or outcast.
The 20th century was an interesting time for the Inner Rebel.
For the first time in history a subsection of society was created who could fully let their Inner Rebel express itself.
The rise of the teenager. Teenage rebellion didn’t exist before because children were given greater responsibility at a younger age. Less (or no) schooling, out to work early. They were taking a part in putting food on the table, or having a role in the family dynasty, married off at 8. As we increased the schooling age and kept children in a state of child and learner past the biological age of adulthood the teenager was born.
Thus we saw a back lash against society, the flower power, the angry generation, the rise of the student demonstrator, taking a stand against injustice in the world. All those years of repression seem to weigh heavy on the soul.
The 21st century is a different world though.
All that rebellion paved a path of tremendous freedom should we choose to embrace it. A culture where really anything is possible. We can have more than one career (we can have more than two), we can travel and work at the same time, we can go to rock concerts at 50 and not seem out-of-place. It is a vibrant time of flexibility and within flexibility we can find a space for your inner rebel to be happy.
It is more of a time of seduction, to allure the ego to take a different route. To inspire those around us by the choices we make.
It all begins by listening to your restless soul. Watch out for signs, a thought that won’t go away, a stray word that keeps on appearing. A clue to what your inner rebel needs you to be and be in the 21st Century.
If your inner rebel doesn’t really know that they want, then contact me about a day’s experience to do just that.
I have two days coming up in Venice to explore the nature of your inner rebel and discover the shifts you or he/she needs to make to create the happy every after.